sunday: april 12th
hi once again, the gap between every sunday seems to be getting shorter and shorter. today's email is about soulmates.
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what we generally consider a soulmate is someone who is perfectly suited for us in every possible manner and might have romantic connections with. there are multiple aspects of a soulmate we ignore. let's start at the basics.
the perfect and shortest way to describe a soulmate would be 'someone who just gets you'. whether both individuals should feel the connection or no is open to interpretation, but personally i feel both people should feel the connection, to preserve the beauty of the word. very often, we overuse a word and the word over time loses its significance and seriousness. that's what happened with 'depression'. the word was overly used in all possible situations of slight inconvenience and suddenly clinically depressed people could no longer fully convey the seriousness.
okay, slightly went off topic. coming back to soulmates.
another aspect that to completely accept is that soulmates and romantic partners are not mutually exclusive of each other. your romantic partner need not be your soulmate, neither does your soulmate have to be your romantic partner.
(note the use of the words need and have, emphasising on the fact that they could be one or the other but need not be.)
you can also have multiple soulmates, there's no need to beat yourself up or feel confused when you feel the same way towards another person, or when you find the same connection in someone else. it would be practically impossible to not have more than one soulmate. and allow them to come in and out of your life as they should.
there is also a common answer to a question that a lot of people seem to have which is: "Why do soulmates not end up together?", the commonly accepted answer being that the soulmate connection is so much more larger than romance and/or marriage.
"Maybe that’s what a soulmate is. Not someone who shares every single thing in common with you, but someone who feels like home."
- E.J Cenita
thank you.
sidenote: feel free to reply to this email with anything at all, from disagreements to anything i've said, to opinions or personal stories, or friends who i can send these to in the future, or just something you'd like me to think about.
with all the love.
xoxo your sunday buddy.
sunday: april 5th
so, i was asked to write about love, after my last email on 29th april, and love to me and hopefully to everyone, means a lot, and it's something i constantly keep thinking about.
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love. some of us make the mistake of limiting the emotion to a single person or concept, which is your life partner, your girlfriend, and so on. but there is one kind of love that will (or should) always supercede the other kinds of love, and that is self love. someone once told me 'how do you expect to love someone honestly when you don't love yourself?'. it is important to reflect and try to figure out if you really do love yourself, because the moment you realise that you do, that's when things change for you. happiness is born from that. followed by really good things.
in the movie Interstellar, this was said about love:
"Love isn’t something we invented. It’s observable, powerful, it has to mean something… Love is the one thing we’re capable of perceiving that transcends dimensions of time and space."
there is no doubt about the power and the genuineness of the emotion, and at times it can also be a very confusing emotion. one that'll lead you to dark places, and sometimes the most colourful of places.
if there's one thing i'd really like to put forward about love, it is that we should stop limiting it. love everything you do, love places, love the night sky, and flaunt it when you feel it, or don't. just don't forget to be open to feeling love in its full magnitude.
i'll be writing a lot more about love, because quite honestly it's something that i will never stop having thoughts about, and can never stop writing about, so.
to end this, here is something worth thinking about, i read this somewhere:
"every time you forgive him, he will love you a little more, but you will stop loving him, so the day he loves you the most you will not feel anything for him anymore."
thank you.
sidenote: feel free to reply to this email with anything at all, from disagreements to anything i've said, to opinions or personal stories, or friends who i can send these to in the future, or just something you'd like me to think about.
with all the love.
xoxo your sunday buddy.
sunday: march 29th
so it's the first one. if you're reading this, then it's because I thought you would want to. i'm going to be sending one of these every sunday so if you'd rather not receive it, please feel free to unsubscribe.
i'm going to use this platform to share what little i can, so you can (hopefully) gain some sort of knowledge out of it, with regards to life, love, poetry, literature and what not.
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moments. i tweeted about this earlier today, and it's been in my head since.
this is exactly what I tweeted:
what makes any moment beautiful is the uncertainty of that moment ever repeating again. so kiss like it’s your last. hug like it’s your last. and look at the sky like it won’t be up there tomorrow. thank u bye
take a moment and think about it. how many times have you experienced something so insanely beautiful but you had to grab your phone and capture the moment and etch it into the digital world only so you can consume some memory of the same moment (that you just missed by the way) in an inferior format?
that time you went into the balcony and took enough time to look at the night sky, enough for the light from the stars to actually catch your attention. you might never see the stars again, take the time to appreciate the fact that you noticed the stars. take the time to count what you can. you'll eventually realise the more you look at the sky, the more stars make way into your vision.
by not completely being present you are missing so much detail, so much so that you truly haven't lived that moment at all.
that beautiful moment when your lips touch another? instead of thinking about where you are, where this is going to lead. take in that moment. enjoy that kiss. because trust me, when you do. there's nothing more beautiful. and I don't say this because I think kisses are the most beautiful thing in the world. I say this because there is nothing more beautiful than being present.
there is nothing that matters more than right now. right now. your past has bid farewell to you. your future relies on the present.
so yeah, this sunday forwards, be conscious. seep in every detail. the way someone's room smells. the way the coffee tastes. the weird ways someone pronounces certain words. the way birds glide through the sky. and most importantly, love now without thinking a hundred years into the future.
thank you.
with all the love.
xoxo your sunday buddy.