sunday: april 12th

hi once again, the gap between every sunday seems to be getting shorter and shorter. today's email is about soulmates.
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what we generally consider a soulmate is someone who is perfectly suited for us in every possible manner and might have romantic connections with. there are multiple aspects of a soulmate we ignore. let's start at the basics. 

the perfect and shortest way to describe a soulmate would be 'someone who just gets you'. whether both individuals should feel the connection or no is open to interpretation, but personally i feel both people should feel the connection, to preserve the beauty of the word. very often, we overuse a word and the word over time loses its significance and seriousness. that's what happened with 'depression'. the word was overly used in all possible situations of slight inconvenience and suddenly clinically depressed people could no longer fully convey the seriousness. 

okay, slightly went off topic. coming back to soulmates.

another aspect that to completely accept is that soulmates and romantic partners are not mutually exclusive of each other. your romantic partner need not be your soulmate, neither does your soulmate have to be your romantic partner.
(note the use of the words need and have, emphasising on the fact that they could be one or the other but need not be.)

you can also have multiple soulmates, there's no need to beat yourself up or feel confused when you feel the same way towards another person, or when you find the same connection in someone else. it would be practically impossible to not have more than one soulmate. and allow them to come in and out of your life as they should.

there is also a common answer to a question that a lot of people seem to have which is: "Why do soulmates not end up together?", the commonly accepted answer being that the soulmate connection is so much more larger than romance and/or marriage. 

"Maybe that’s what a soulmate is. Not someone who shares every single thing in common with you, but someone who feels like home."
- E.J Cenita

thank you. 

sidenote: feel free to reply to this email with anything at all, from disagreements to anything i've said, to opinions or personal stories, or friends who i can send these to in the future, or just something you'd like me to think about. 

with all the love. 
xoxo your sunday buddy.