sunday: june 14th

it changes everything. there is suddenly absolute power, and an immensely strong feeling of relief when you just choose to do so. and the best part? it is not even hard. initiating the process from a point of low, or sadness can be hard. but direct yourself towards this path when you're there: multiple vantage points, in other words - perspective.

there's a very big chance i must've confused you with that, since i was being vague as usual (i guess?). what i'm talking about is to develop a process or ability to look at something from different perspectives. some of us are burdened with the feeling of the entire world being a testing field for one's own life, them being the centre of everything, or the centre of a smaller reality. but that is the farthest from reality you can stray. there are gazillions of realities in process right now, in the minds of millions of people. everyone is living their own life and there is no centre. everyone's behaviour actuates from their own thought processes however vile and cruel some of them might be. in no way am i trying to justify someone's wrongdoing by saying 'they might have thought they're doing a good thing.' no. what i'm saying instead is: 'they did it. regardless of good or bad.'
i have a feeling i'm digging deeper into creating confusion but i hope i am not. 

when you inculcate into your basic instincts or at least actively make a decision to think about something from someone else's perspective, it gives you a whole different world of solutions to problems you didn't know existed in the first place. businesses thrive from this, businesses run for profits (exceptions exist in multiple forms) and they do this by serving the needs of their target audience. they need to think from our point of view to realise the changes they need to make, the decisions they need to make, the product they need to focus on. they need to think from our point of view. otherwise, forget the profits. 
when someone does something hurtful to you, or something that made you feel horrible, take a moment to think from their point of view, be in their shoes for a while and just think: why? do not go into this process to justify their actions. that is not the aim here. the aim is to understand why, however horrible it might be. sometimes, it gives us relief. sometimes, it gives us closure, and sometimes, it gives us direction.

not all of us have understanding parents right? some of us feel like they try to be as understanding as possible but after a point they just can't? some of them simply don't make an effort and stick to their values and methods? (forgive me for making assumptions here)
our brains make pathways for habits it can follow with ease. it likes to maintain homeostasis. in simpler words: our brains does not likes change, and it prefers the path of least resistance. now think about all the changes that have happened in terms of changes to society, how we live life, technology, and the world in general. our parents have grown. continued research shows that ageing reduces our brain's ability to create new pathways, hence why it becomes harder for them to accept change. again, i'm not justifying all of their actions, but when you look at it from their point of view: you eventually learn to cut them some slack, you instead attempt to slowly educate them instead of lashing out, newness is hard for them, hell it's hard even for some of us young ones. 
 
when you look at something from different vantage points, only then you can see the whole picture. maybe the closest to the true picture you'll get. there are so many beautiful real life and fictional stories that come into fruition when this is done. all of us appreciate different things, and have different opinions and likes and tastes. learn to respect it. 

on the other hand, when you try and live in someone else's shoes in your mind, and you see nothing but a very sad, bad, vile thought process, and you know in your heart that there is no acceptable justification for an action: you now have the relief of getting rid of something you don't need in your life. everyone's not good. there's always going to be bad. don't use this to justify the bad. 

writing this as a tribute to when i thought of a situation from their point of view and i was able to find closure and happiness for them, although i didn't feel the same way myself for a while. 

"new perspectives challenge our assumptions about right and wrong."
- not me

hello,
the days are flying away faster than ever. to the new ones here, hello. i feel like this one was a very confusing one, i can see how it can look confusing or seem so. but my point is pretty straightforward. i've always just wanted to be able to communicate my thoughts in the most simple way possible so everyone can understand it, which is why i refrain from using complicated words not all of us can understand, wherever possible. however today, it's been hard to structure this in a more understandable format and for that, you have my apologies. 
have a good day, people.